Whether you’re dating someone new or trying to keep the spark alive with an old flame, it can be challenging to read the signs that your relationship is truly headed for the long haul.
You’ve finally found that one person who seems to really care about you… except they have been making all these subtle changes to your relationship you just haven’t noticed or realized. Are you feeling it in the air? Or maybe you feel like you’re being controlled or manipulated by this person?
Take a moment to assess whether the relationship you’ve got going with this guy or gal might be unhealthy. After all, sometimes there’s good reason to end a relationship—like when you realize that it’s just not working and you’ve been putting up with all sorts of bad behavior.
But what if you’re just in denial, and that relationship is actually really healthy and lasting? Learn how to tell if your relationship is unhealthy, and if it is, how to find healthy ways of dealing with it:
1. You Are Both Giving And Taking (It’s Not Just About Me)
Does your partner always take the lead in the relationship, making decisions and calling the shots? Or do you feel like you’re being pushed around, or like you’re the one who’s in charge?
If this is true, you’re probably going to be fighting over minor issues or just fighting in general. And that’s probably not healthy for you or the relationship.
2. There is Mutual Trust & Respect
Mutual trust and respect are critical to a healthy relationship. You need to trust that your partner will always be there for you, and you need to respect that your partner has their own life and is allowed to have their own feelings and thoughts.
If you’re constantly trying to make your partner feel guilty or jealous or manipulate them into doing what you want, you’re probably not going to be able to maintain a healthy relationship.
3. Both of you are Honest With Yourself
If you’re having issues with your partner, the first thing you should do is talk to them about it. You need to talk to each other about your feelings and be honest about your thoughts and needs.
If you can’t do this, your relationship is probably unhealthy. You need to be open and honest with each other, or you’ll end up with feelings of resentment and betrayal.
4. Both of you are Good Listeners
You don’t have to agree with your partner, but you do have to be able to listen to them and understand what they are saying.
If you’re not really listening to your partner, you’re not respecting them, and you’re not going to be able to maintain a healthy relationship.
5. You Can Agree On Decisions Without Arguing
Sometimes you and your partner may not agree on things, but you need to be able to discuss your differences and figure out a way to compromise.
If you can’t, you’re not going to be able to work out your differences and keep the relationship healthy.
When you’re in a healthy relationship, you can agree to a decision without feeling like you’re being controlled or manipulated. If you can’t agree on a decision, you’re probably feeling a lot of resentment.
There are many reasons you might want to end a relationship, whether it’s because you’re just not feeling it anymore or because you’ve realized that you’ve been putting up with a lot of unhealthy behavior.
The good news is that there are ways to tell if your relationship is unhealthy, and, if it is, how to deal with it. For example, if you’re not able to talk to your partner about your feelings and thoughts, your relationship is probably unhealthy.
It’s not easy to end a relationship, but it’s also not impossible. You’ll have to be honest with yourself about the relationship and the issues that are bothering you, and then you’ll need to make a decision.